A Request from Gary Collins

QuestionsThis is a note to you who receive my newsletters every week. Usually each week I share something that comes from what I’ve been reading, often about present trends, leadership, the future, coaching and sometimes counseling. I plan to keep going with this approach.

But a close friend has challenged me to write and reflect on topics some of you might find interesting – sharing from my perspective or maybe about what I know now. So I would like you to engage in a social experiment with me on this blog. If you could select a topic or issue for me to write about in a future People Builder Newsletter post, what would that topic be?

Please click on the comment button below and post two pieces of information: (1) a brief description of the topic that especially interests you, and (2) a suggested title for my post on that topic.

I look forward to hearing from you, maybe today. I might not respond to everybody but you can be sure I will read every comment.

Thanks everybody.

    • Henry Virkler
    • April 28th, 2015

    Gary,
    I love your posts using the format that you’re presently using. However, I would love to hear your reflections on various topics as well. I don’t have anything in mind right now, but if I do, I’ll send it along.

  1. Major counseling issues for Millennials.
    Lessons you’ve learned over the years that could sharpen us.
    Difference between coaching and counseling.
    How do you emotionally live with the “values” slide in our country?
    Thoughts on finishing strong.

    • Serge Varga
    • April 28th, 2015

    Youth Leader or young leader and failure.
    How to cope with failures, wrong decisions made by young/youth leader, which have automatically consequences for/over other young people?

    Out of your experiences, which are the best ways to go with them? Taking them out of the Leadership for while or encouraging them to continue with mire awerness or …?

  2. Gary,

    I’d like to read your thoughts on how authority works in a Christian organization. Where does authority come from? How is it to be exercised? And, where does submission to authority fit in?

    A suggested title might be: Authority vs. Authoritarianism

    • Leslae Southardl
    • April 28th, 2015

    How can I help inmates and encourage them. I want to show them the hope , love and encouragement we have through Christ. Is there a way that I can show them this so its easy for them to understand, while helping them and encouraging them.
    Thank You

    • robanddawnmc
    • April 28th, 2015

    The role of courage in leadership development, especially the character side of development. Can courage be developed incrementally? How? Where does the courage come from to do the internal work that I need to do?

    • Luke
    • April 28th, 2015

    Title: Post Presentation Depletion & Recovery

    Context: Many of us lead and/or speak and feel an emotional depletion / letdown and the need for recovery after big events. Would love to hear what you have learned bout what works and what doesn’t in these times. Thanks.

  3. Gary – I doubt there’s any topic you would comment on that I would not be interested to hear your ‘seasoned’ perspective. Thanks for being a lifelong learner.

    • Elsie Millerd
    • April 28th, 2015

    I, too, appreciate all your comments and the way that you make us aware of pieces that we do not have time to read.

    What wisdom can you share on how to coach people at the end of life to live well and with grace? This is a “hot topic” in Canada where our supreme court has struck down the law that physician assisted death is illegal.

    Thank you.

  4. One thing came to mind immediately. Your insight on “coaching chains,” that is, coaches who coach coaches who coach others. Especially in cultures that practice rote learning. As in 2 Timothy 2:2 whereby a master coach takes responsibility for what is happening to a third generation.

    • Barrett Jacobson
    • April 28th, 2015

    As a young person, I’d love to hear a post titled something like “What I wish I had known/done when I was in my twenties”, in regards to personal and/or professional life.

    • Elize van Reenen
    • April 28th, 2015

    I would appreciate some i formation on the topic of thr gap that exists between counselli g and coaching. Not all clients are ready to move directly to coaching. Some need counselling first. What is the experience of coaches and counsellors arou d the world?

    • Scott La Point
    • April 28th, 2015

    Maybe something along the lines of “Staying Relevant in a World of Relevancy,” for certainly the voices of devout Christians and others in the helping profession are being drowned out by those shouting for tolerance and non-absolutism. I for one desire to remain faithful to my values while still being open to where the secular world finds it purpose and meaning for life.

  5. Greetings,
    I would like to see articles on the newest approaches we can use in Church today in order to help people struggling with issues in life.

    As a title I suggest: Mental Illness and Spirituality (with a focus on Christianity).
    God bless

    • David Fogleboch
    • April 28th, 2015

    I am reviewing the world of emotions. I have a list of them, am looking at Jesus and His emotions, etc. Anything about handling the reality of emotions would be good.

    • Belinda
    • April 28th, 2015

    I am just starting to learn about coaching, and I am interested in prison ministry and working with ex-offenders. I would love to read something on the topic of using coaching with this group of people to help them set goals and start a new life. Title could be “Take Coaching to Prison” or “Coach Goes to Jail” something like that.

    • Eleanor
    • April 28th, 2015

    Hi Gary I would love to hear your reflections on ageing well. I think we live in an age denying, death defying culture. I think strong leadership in this area would be so beneficial to those following on from you. What has surprised you? Is it all doom and gloom?What are the gifts of ageing? How do you cope with limitations? Regrets? the losses eg of death of peers, health,downsizing,independence? What do you see as the spiritual tasks of ageing?What inspiries you as you age? Can you live too long ? Does your view of heaven and God change?Does having faith make a difference? How do you face death?Is there one thing you wish you’d done that would have prepared you for ageing well? If there was one piece of advice to pass on what would it be?

    I’d leave naming it up to you 😊😊

  6. Regarding ever-shifting cultural values, every generation contends with historical social issues that espouses tolerance yet demands cultural acceptance. You’ve lived through a number of these during your lifetime. What wisdom/insights would you proffer in how we could better respond to the growing juxtaposition of secular dog-piling / accusing Christians of intolerance while provoking – and even encouraging – society to be intolerant of Christians. Working title could be: “The Irony (or Hypocrisy) of Tolerance”. Or possibly, “Navigating the Path Between Values Tolerance vs Values Acceptance”.

  7. Mental Health – Depression
    Looking at the problem of depression not only by the clinic perspective, but also from Christian Faith, I believe that our Christian tradition has much and indispensable contribution to offer for those who are suffering from depression.
    The title could be ” Depression and Christian Faith”

    Warm regards,
    Ezequiel Caetano Ferreira
    Presbiteryan Church – São Paulo, Brazil

    • Sandi Geldenhuys
    • April 28th, 2015

    Gary, thanks for your invitation. I’d love to hear your thoughts on counseling and discipleship. It seems that there is an overlap but also a distinct difference in approach and outcome. Is there a need for counseling if people are discipled biblically? Would counseling be minimized if every new believer was discipled thoroughly?

    Sugested Title: Does Biblical Discipleship Eliminate the Need for Counseling?

    • Jo Beth Loftis
    • April 28th, 2015

    Mentoring cross-cultural workers/younger ministry leaders from a distance (via skype, email, phone calls) — best ways to be supportive and understand their needs.

    suggested title: Caring Across Continents

    Thank you!

    • Bob Swift
    • April 28th, 2015

    Suggested Title: Is the Day Coming?
    Content: I believe that the day will be coming when, due to gay activist pressure, Christians in general and Christian Professionals in particular will be under legal and govt. scrutiny to modify their beliefs and therapeutic practices re. this issue. Christian professionals might even be subject to de-certification and forfeiture of credentials. Would like to hear your comments.

    • Livia Yuliawati
    • April 29th, 2015

    Would you like to share/discuss about calling? I am interested to know more about it since some research and popular source attempt to propose that calling occurs among non-Christian people. Insofar calling also has been discussed in career domain only, but I think Christian calling probably more than its domain.
    Suggested title probably: Calling: only for Christian and only for career?
    Looking forward to learning more from you. Thanks a lot.

    • Mary Ann Bianchi
    • April 30th, 2015

    A couple of topics come to mind: 1) Resiliency; 2) Helping those who say they want help but won’t follow through, or who have tons of excuses why something won’t work. Your insights and information are always greatly appreciated!

    • Timothy J. Behrens
    • April 30th, 2015

    Forgiveness. Someone came to me recently and said, “My spouse can’t seem to forgive me. Even though I’ve asked for ‘forgiveness’ and they said they forgave me at the time, every so often they keep bringing the past up. They won’t let it go.”

    • Sharen Winar
    • May 1st, 2015

    Gary, I request about NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming). What is the effectiveness of NLP for helping people? How about Hypno therapy as well?
    Thank you for this opportunity.

  8. Hi Gary,

    How about “why a global perspective is absolutely necessary in today’s world”?

    • Carla
    • May 2nd, 2015

    1. How to switch focus from serving clients to serving staff members; Basis: being a manager requires one to work with the staff to a greater degree than with the clients, however one may have pursued the position thinking one would have a broader field from which to serve the client ( and ended up dealing more with staff conflicts).
    2. the focus shift

  9. How has coaching personally benefited you?

    • Stanley McCreary
    • May 3rd, 2015

    The impact upon the church of Progressive Education Philosophy in Colleges/high school/elementary school.

    • Rich Gathro
    • May 14th, 2015

    Please write about flourishing in the “final third” of life (age 60-90).

    • Warren
    • July 9th, 2015

    Here are two topics of interest:

    Topic1: The Role of Christian Counselling in Mental Health:
    Desc1: A month ago our youth ministry put on a seminar to address the stigma surrounding Christians suffering from mental health disorders e.g. psychosis and the type of treatments used that are not necessarily endorsed by the faith community e.g. certain drugs. Dogmatic views from some or perhaps many Christian groups often are quick to demonize or spiritualize these types of issues that are on the rise among young and mature believers and many are not getting the help needed in light of these belief systems and approaches.

    Topic2: Bridging the Gap – The Social Relationship Divide
    Desc2: In some communities of faith, the gap between young and mature believers is on the rise and it’s event by the persistent strain to build and maintain good personal relationships. I have personally been apart of two faith groups and the gap’s are so ever present and the relationships are getting harder to build and maintain. What I have noticed in some cases are people crying out using social media to gain attention, or people hiding behind these tools to create the allusion of connection and personal relationship to others that aren’t truly there. The issue is present among the young groups, the mature groups and the young versus the mature groups. To compensate, people resort to the high school model, find a group and cling to that; however, can we confidently affirm that what we are presenting the model of Jesus Christ and the family of God as individuals and as a collective body of believers?

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